Several people over the past few weeks have mentioned the movie The Five-Year Engagement to us. Last week, we finally decided to watch it. We thought the movie was hilarious! I (Ashley) actually stayed awake during the whole movie. Which is rare, if we are watching it at night. I believe this movie is full of tips to apply to any engaged couple's life.
The engagement period can be kind of weird. It begins on an emotional high. Two people who are madly in love decide to spend the rest of their life together. Then ... the wedding planning begins, everyone has an opinion on when/where/how, budgets are decided on and sometimes it can get a little complicated. So what are the the 5 things you (the bride and groom) can learn from The Five-Year Engagement that will make your engagement and wedding less complicated.
1. Everyone will have an opinion on your wedding. Your parents, your friends, random people you meet in the grocery store ... they all will have an opinion of where or how you should plan your wedding. Listen to all of the advice given, especially from your parents, and then decide which advice fits into your vision for your wedding. If you and your fiance have your heart set on getting married outdoors, do not get married in a church because your parents pressured you into it. You should respect their opinion, but they also need to respect your decisions.
2. Don't compare your wedding to other people's weddings. When all of your friends are getting married at the same time, it's easy to begin comparing your wedding to theirs. Is their band better than yours? Should you have chosen a different location? Will people have fun at your wedding? Comparing your wedding to others and trying to win an invisible battle, will simply take the joy and excitement out of wedding planning and getting married. You must remember that your wedding is a reflection of you and your fiance and your love for each other. Your friends and family will love your wedding as long as you and your fiance are having fun and are happy. The energy for a wedding day is not dependent solely on the band, caterer or venue but comes from the bride and groom and their love for each other. The people who surround you are there for the sole reason of watching the two people they love get married.
3. Love will not always be easy. There are many conversations you should have before you get married, about future kids, goals, money, etc. But waiting until everything is "perfect" is not realistic. There will be many things you figure out along the way. Whether or not you should take a job, where to live, how to be a wife/husband, how to forgive and how to love unconditionally. Part of marriage is the pact that no matter what, you're in this together. I loved the quote from Violet (Emily Blunt), "I don't think we can figure out all of our problems before we get married, ... but I promise you that I will just love you every step of the way."
4. Both the bride and groom should be a part of the planning. A wedding day should represent the bride and the groom and therefore both should be involved in the planning. The groom may not care exactly what flowers are chosen, but the location and band may be really important to him. Brides, make sure you include your future husband in the decisions and make it fun. Maybe he would do a great job choosing the wedding filmmaker, give him that task. Including him in the planning, also makes it a lot less stressful for you.
5. It's all about getting married. Ultimately at the end of the day your wedding is all about marrying the person you love more than anyone in the world. Do not get wrapped up in the little details. At the end of the day, it does not matter what centerpieces you decided on, the only thing that matters is the love between two people. Do not let wedding planning and details you saw on Pinterest, overshadow the most important part of the day ... that two people have fallen madly in love and want to spend the rest of their life together.
If you have not seen The Five-Year Engagement, it's a fun flick and you should check it out.